Marriage and Family: The Original Cell of Social Life

The past 25 years have witnessed a dramatic-and tragic-effort to organize societies by violence. Networks and societies that associate themselves with Islam are the most Boko Haramprominent today, but one could find earlier historical examples, such as revolutions inspired by the Communist Manifesto. The Al Qaida network led to the Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS), which has encouraged affiliations such as Boko Haram.

The efforts of these groups to organize society by violence necessarily attack the family, which by nature strives for peace. Catholic Social Doctrine helps us understand the harm done by these attacks on the family because it recognizes the family as the foundation of society.

Many people think that Catholic Social Doctrine is primarily concerned with activism concerning human rights, especially regarding the poor. It is that, but it is more. Catholic Social Doctrine really provides a view of society –how it is composed, its fundamental principles –that is compatible with the Gospel and the existence of the Church. Catholic Social Doctrine emphasizes that society is primarily a spiritual, not a material reality. We might be tempted, especially in a wealthy society, to think of society primarily in terms of its economic resources. But in paragraph 1886, the Catechism points out that authentic society forms around true spiritual goods, when they are valued and pursued together as a common goal. For this reason, we interpret the “common good” not merely in terms of the material, economic conditions of human flourishing, but primarily in terms of the spiritual goods that people pursue together and the virtues and practices by which they attain them.

The little society we call “family” is based on the very practical yet spiritual “goods of marriage”: the lifelong, sacred bond between the spouses, having and educating children, fidelity and exclusivity, the spouses’ mutual help in the pursuit of virtue and holiness as well as in the running ofHoly Family a household and in the parenting of children, and finally, for two baptized Christians, the spiritual (and practical!) sacramental good of their marriage as a sign of Christ’s union with the Church (CCC 1643-1654). The well-being of Society means recognizing and protecting the common goods of the marital and familial community. The Catechism also uses the word “communion” to describe the little societies called marriage and family (CCC 2205).

We can take each one of these goods of marriage and explain how spouses contribute to society, as well as build their own families, by pursuing those goods. Human love seeks the kind of permanent relationship established by the bond of marriage. By establishing this bond between them, a man and a woman show that special kind of love called “marital” exists in their society. A society without children disappears. A society benefits from educated people, and education begins with intimate knowledge of the kind that parents have for their children. Similarly, a society benefits from mature adults who can accept responsibility. Spouses can use their intimate knowledge of each other to promote their common growth in virtue and holiness (CCC 2206). Finally, spouses lead their families in organizing the material wealth of the society. For this reason, the Catechism calls the family “the original cell of social life” (CCC 2208).

Those who would organize society through violence pursue these social goods for their families while denying them to others. One of the most striking examples took place a year ago when Boko Haram kidnapped 270 girls and, according to news reports, began forced conversion to Islam. By killing or kidnapping, these groups deprive families of their own children. Where they systematically destroyed the family, they will succeed in destroying the society.

Recently the Nigerian Bishops Conference responded with Catholic Social Doctrine. In February of this year, their Plenary Meeting for 2015 developed the theme “Good Families Make Good Nations” and spoke about the nation as a “family of families.” They help us to recognize that violence not only deprives families of their children, but also deprives society of all the social goods that depend upon families.

Grattan Brown teaches Ministry to the Sick and Dying for Saint Joseph’s College Online.

Let Us Rejoice!

The Church, through the medium of Liturgical Year, reminds us that Laetare (Rejoice!) is not just the name of a single day but it is an inescapable spiritual perspective for a lifetime. The Easter truth informs our faith every Sunday and every day of the year.

This has been a particularly hard winter for many of us… with record and enduring low temperatures, ever growing piles of snow and ice, ice, ice. The darkness of winter and the challenges inherent in that season try us. They turn us inward like a warm house on a snowy night calls us in and out of the wind. There is a beautiful parallel for us in this hemisphere, at least, between the natural season and the Liturgical season. Drawing us inward the Penitential Season of Lent invites us to reflect on the journey of our spiritual life and our growth in our relationship with God and others. There is a sense of Retreat when we pause and take the time apart to examine and sit with those deepest realities that anchor our faith.

As the winter has been hard, Lent, too, can be difficult. Knowing that, the Church in her wisdom marks the half-way point in the Lenten Season to allow us to take a breath amid the serious reflection and work of the penitential season. Part of the beauty of the entire Liturgical Year is this built-in rhythm that interfaces with the natural seasons and allows us, if we give ourselves to it, to move forward with the pace that our will and God’s good grace lead. Laetare Sunday, with its correlative partner, Gaudate Sunday in Advent, invites us to remember and celebrate, and, yes, rejoice as it echoes the Introit of the traditional Latin Mass, “Rejoice! Oh Jerusalem!” The rose vestments which replace the purple for a day are a surprise and a reminder of the Easter kerygma that enlivens our faith with love and enduring hope.

Cloy PotIn the midst of our reflection in this penitential season, the theme of forgiveness and healing encourages us to embrace the redemptive grace of Easter. Our frailty, our “Happy Fault” is an occasion for growth and God’s good grace. The image of a clay pot, an earthen vessel, has always spoken to me. It is fragile, flawed, often broken and mirrors our human condition. A psychologist friend once humorously commented that many of us are broken while some are just a little cracked. All kidding aside, it’s not difficult to see ourselves in this image. The wonderful lyricist Leonard Cohen wrote in his poem/song Anthem, “forget your perfect offering, there’s a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.” Rejoice, I say again rejoice, not in the crack, but in the light!

Susan O’Hara teaches theology for Saint Joseph’s College Online.