{"id":1430,"date":"2016-12-25T05:00:47","date_gmt":"2016-12-25T10:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sjcmetheology.wpengine.com\/?p=1430"},"modified":"2016-12-25T05:00:47","modified_gmt":"2016-12-25T10:00:47","slug":"1430-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.sjcme.edu\/theology\/1430-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Transformation in Christ"},"content":{"rendered":"

Christmas is exceptionally hard for my family and me this year. We have death on our minds or, rather, the painful longing for a loved one who, although a nonagenarian, was, for us, taken much too soon in 2016. At ninety-one, my mother Mimi Sodano was, in a true sense, the heart of the family\u2014more a \u201csecond mother\u201d to my four grown children than a grandmother. She lived with us, and she expressed her love most vibrantly in the sumptuous meals she prepared for us nearly daily.<\/span><\/p>\n

Advent and Christmas were writ large in Mimi\u2019s mind. The daughter of Italian immigrants, she started preparing for our traditional Christmas Eve \u201cfeast of seven fishes\u201d the day after Thanksgiving. She wrote long lists of grocery items and, since we moved to Maine from New Jersey several years ago, sent one or more of the grandkids on road trips to Boston to pick up the Italian seafood delicacies that are nowhere to be found in Maine. Seven is a relative number when it comes to the fish, as we stopped counting at fifteen dishes and nine different fish one year. <\/span><\/p>\n

Christmas Eve at the Sodano-Ireland household was a regular <\/span>Babette\u2019s Feast<\/span><\/i><\/a>, with Mimi spending seemingly endless prep days of relentless toil and extravagant spending\u2014tremendous sacrifices for a woman living on a fixed income and in constant pain from severe arthritis. Her doctor couldn\u2019t figure out how she could function, let alone walk, cook, clean, mend, sew, and serve like someone half her age. We used to think it was because she had a high threshold for pain, but on her deathbed we knew for sure that she worked so hard because she felt most fully alive when she sacrificed for others. She <\/span>knew <\/span><\/i>that \u201csuffering is a key to the meaning of life.\u201d*<\/span><\/p>\n

Suffering doesn\u2019t just refer to physical pain. Suffering\u2014<\/span>redemptive suffering<\/span><\/i>, broadly speaking, is any sacrifice of oneself for love and for the betterment of another. The late John Downs, who was paralyzed in an accident in his teens, relates the deep and life-giving meaning of suffering:<\/span><\/p>\n

Suffering without God can crush and destroy. Suffering with Christ can redeem and create. When the Second Person of the Holy Trinity became Man and took on a human body so that He could suffer, human suffering was transformed. It became an instrument for good, both for the individual and for the world at large\u2026<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

One of the mysteries of life is that suffering is the divinely-chosen means of enabling human beings, wounded and handicapped by original sin, to rise above selfish inclinations and to live, by God\u2019s grace, more fully <\/span>human<\/span> lives. It is only in the <\/span>acceptance<\/span> of suffering, in the <\/span>spiritualization <\/span>of suffering, in the uniting of one\u2019s sufferings with those of Christ, that one can discover the secret to true happiness. Human nature recoils at this reality. But has not God \u201cchosen the weak and foolish things to confound the strong and the wise?\u201d (1 Cor. 3:18).
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\nIndeed, suffering, in and of itself, is not good and serves no useful purpose. <\/span>It is that which transpires in a human being who suffers that is of paramount importance and value<\/span>\u2026 Only in the mystery of God Himself will we begin to understand how the suffering caused by original sin has been transformed into a blessing by means of the Redemptive Cross of Christ.*<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

\"benedetto-adoration\"<\/a>

The Adoration Of The Kings And Christ On The Cross, by Benedetto<\/p><\/div>\n

St. Athanasius instructs us on the meaning of the Incarnation: <\/span>God became man so that man may become God. <\/span><\/i>Of course, we are not God in our nature, but we are divinized through grace. We are graced through Christ\u2019s suffering love; that is, we are <\/span>transformed <\/span><\/i>into His own Image, so that with St. Paul, we can say: <\/span>It is not I who live, but Christ in me.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

This first Christmas without Mimi no doubt will be difficult for the children and grandchildren who loved her so dearly. Yet, we can be joyful even as we grieve, for we experienced first-hand the redemptive power of suffering through the sacrificial way Mimi lived her life for us and for others. \u00a0Until her last breath, she sacrificed herself for the sake of the <\/span>good<\/span><\/i>\u2014the <\/span>salvation<\/span><\/i>\u2014of others. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In her last earthly days when she no longer could speak, Mimi would greet us by making the sign of the cross. When she no longer could raise her arm to form the cross, she would mouth the words of the Rosary as we prayed aloud or sang \u201cAve Maria\u201d to and with her. When she no longer could move her lips, she moved her fingers over the beads clutched in her hand. When she could do none of these, she listened as we each spoke to her of our love and gratitude for the immeasurable sacrifices she made for us. <\/span><\/p>\n

Although my family won\u2019t be sharing a seven fish dinner or exchanging gifts with my mother this year, we remember the priceless gifts that she gave us\u2014first and foremost, the value of redemptive suffering and sacrificial love\u2014the same gift that Christ gave 2,000 years ago. Merry Christmas!<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mimi-et-al\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Patricia Ireland<\/strong> is Dean of Undergraduate Studies and Program Director of Online Theology Programs at Saint Joseph’s College.<\/p>\n

*John F. Downs, Suffering: A Key to the Meaning of Life <\/em>(Woodstock, Virginia: Apostolatus Uniti, 1991), Pamphlet.<\/p>\n

Blog title taken from Dietrich von Hildebrand\u2019s Transformation in Christ, <\/em>Ignatius Press.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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