Saint Mary Magdalene, pray for us

I had a definite yet indefinable sense of calm when I opened the envelope and saw the date and time that I have been assigned for my Oral Comprehensive Exam for my Masters Degree. Now mind you this calm had nothing to do with how academically prepared I was or the hours of reading and research that had gotten me to that point. It was more like a comforting nod from the Communion of Saints that, with will and grace, I would not be alone and should not fear and go forward with confidence. The date meant one thing and one thing only to me. It was July 22nd, the Feast of Saint Mary Magdalene and in an instant I was transported to my youth and the Immaculate Heart of Mary Sisters who taught me in elementary school. I remembered the sisters who had a particular devotion to Saint Mary Magdalene.

St Mary Magdalene.jpgThe sisters recounted the beautiful story of Mary Magdalene that I later learned was a conflation of virtually every Mary/Miriam in the New Testament. The mistaken identity of Mary of Magdala made for a wonderful story of redemption, hope and the power the Gospel and of a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus. In the years that followed I began to read more about the biblical Mary Magdalene who is named by all four of the Evangelists as one of the women who went to the tomb at first light on Easter morning. I learned of the Mary who was the first to experience the reality of the risen Christ in a Post-Resurrection experience. I learned of the Mary who was commissioned by the risen Lord Himself to go to the Apostles and proclaim the joyful Easter kerygma, “He is alive!” I learned that for these reasons she had been called the Apostle to the Apostles.

After all these years I am devoted to her and continue to pray for her intercession for me and for my students. And I always remember to give her her proper title…Saint Mary Magdalene…pray for us.

Susan O’Hara teaches theology for Saint Joseph’s College Online.

Marriage: Total Self-Gift

“Wow, you got your hands full.”Trendowski

If you’re a parent, it’s possible that you have heard this statement thrown in your direction before. My wife and I, as we approach our seventh wedding anniversary, have three children. I find it amazing when people say “you got your hands full” when I am only holding one of my children. Imagine if they saw me when all three were climbing on me at the same time, or when they’re hungry and in a seemingly rehearsed chorus they ask for different foods in harmony.

With the Third Extraordinary Synod of Bishops set to meet this Fall, Pope Francis and bishops from around the world will be discussing issues related to marriage and family life. I believe that the Catholic Church’s vision for married life offers a fresh and engaging perspective for our contemporary world. St. John Paul II declares, “The communion of love between God and people, a fundamental part of the Revelation and faith experience of Israel, finds a meaningful expression in the marriage covenant which is established between a man and a woman” (Familiaris Consortio 12). The approaching synod has caused me to reflect on how I live my vocation to married life.

In his book Divine Likeness, Cardinal Marc Ouellet suggests that since Vatican II and St. John Paul II, “the theology of marriage has been developed in terms of ‘gift’…” (Ouellet 150-151). Men and women are created in the image of God (cf. Genesis 1:26-27). One of the great theological insights of Vatican II was the idea that “man, who is the only creature on earth which God willed for itself, cannot fully find himself except through a sincere gift of himself” (Gaudium et Spes 24). Only through a gift of self can people find their true purpose and meaning in life. This is because a total self gift both participates in and manifests the divine life to which we’re invited.

Many of us are familiar with St. John Paul II’s Wednesday audiences which have become what we call the “Theology of the Body.” The giving of oneself in marriage, including in the conjugal act, is discussed in terms of a total gift of oneself. In a marriage covenant, husband and wife can manifest Trinitarian love, and the communion to which all people are drawn. For a husband or wife to hold back anything would be a betrayal of the communion which they’re guided by the Holy Spirit to manifest.

Cardinal Angelo Scola in The Nuptial Mystery draws from St. John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body” and describes how the perichoresis of the Triune God is based on total self-giving. This is described beautifully in the following:

Communio personarum exists in its perfection in the Three in One, because the Father gives himself completely to the Son without keeping anything of his divine essence for himself… The Son himself gives back the same, perennial divine essence. This exchange of love between the two is so perfect as to be fruitful in a pure state: it gives rise to another person, the Holy Spirit (donum doni) (Scola, 131).

The Father completely gives everything He is to the Son; the Son completely gives Himself back in totality to the Father. Their self-giving love is so total and so perfect that it is fruitful and a third Person arises, the Holy Spirit.

Cardinal Scola makes the connection between this Trinitarian relationship and the relationship between husband and wife. A husband and wife can give a total gift of self, offering all that they are, and in the context of the conjugal act, it is possible that a new person can be created. But Cardinal Ouellet also mentions that whether or not a new child is conceived, the love of the spouses is fruitful in that they are manifesting the Trinitarian gift of self (cf. Ouellet 172).

There is an element of sacrifice involved here. The spouses freely commit to each other, accepting the new life if God should bless them with a child. However, if a couple experiences difficulty in conceiving, they also accept the sacrifice associated with not being able to bear children. In both cases, the spouses who completely give of themselves in love have the opportunity to offer themselves as a spiritual sacrifice to the Lord (cf. Romans 12:1) and to participate in the economy of salvation by manifesting Trinitarian love through a gift of self.

So my response to my interlocutors should be “Yes, I have my hands full: they’re full with my gift of self to the Lord. I give Him all that I am in loving surrender in an act of self-emptying gift-giving aimed at being drawn deeper into the mystery of the Trinitarian communio personarum, and this participation in the divine life penetrates who I am, giving me the grace and love to offer myself as a self gift to my wife.” Do you think that would get their attention?

Either way, what is essential to remember is that God invites us to participate in His very own divine life and we can experience true love through sincere acts of self gift.

Edward Trendowski is Coordinator for Catechetical Resources for the Diocese of Providence and teaches pastoral theology for Saint Joseph’s College Online.